But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. I've vaguely heard of it before, but I don't know how it actually works.
Introduction to Orgasm Denial and Control
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I am about to do what was once upon a time unthinkable for me: praise the training that is orgasm control. Giving up control of my orgasm was one of the very first pieces of submission I offered my husband. We started transitioning from a vanilla, egalitarian marriage to a kinky one and it was one of the first "ideas" about Dominance and submission he had come across in research. At the time we were beginning submission in only the bedroom - which I think is a very common first step for those starting out. It began with "I want you to try to wait for me to tell you to come when together" to "You need to ask permission to come when you're masturbating as well" to "This is now what we do always forever and ever. My orgasm belonged to my Dominant entirely. I was to never orgasm without express permission from him to do so.
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A couple who want to explore new fields of erotic expression could consider orgasm denial. This intensely erotic sex game is indeed most suitable to two people who know and understand each other well. And this sexual practice is all about control. It has both strongly physical as well as psychological elements, which makes for maximized sexual tension in the bedroom. Some say orgasm denial is an acquired skill.
Insteady, she made me wait another two days. Nine days wait for my first orgasm denial experience. It was well worth the wait. After that nine days of being denied, I figured I was no longer being denied.